It’s been a while since I’ve been in a long-term relationship. We broke up just over a year ago, and as you can tell from my blog posts, I’ve been trying to dip my toes in the proverbial dating pool again with trying out some online dating sites. It’s certainly been an eye-opener and often leaving me smacking myself upside the head wondering “WHAT are men thinking? “ I mean besides how they are going to get laid.
Recently, I traveled to Florida on business. On the flight down I happened to sit next to a very attractive man. He seemed rather nervous, perhaps not a seasoned flier. As we headed to the runway he turned to me and asked if it would be okay if he held my hand during takeoff. Seems he hadn’t flown in over 15 years. As someone who used to dread takeoffs, I said sure and offered some suggestions for enjoying the flight, such as watching out the window rather than closing your eyes hoping for the best. lol
Well, two hours later, after some great conversation, we were still holding hands when he leaned over and kissed me. He said he’d love to get together when we both returned from our respective trips. We exchanged phone numbers and email addresses.
This is the stuff dating fairy tales are made of, right? When you least expect it, you meet Mr. Right? Well, before you get all excited and hopeful, let me share what happened this morning.
Yesterday, I sent him a brief email saying I’d returned from my travels and hoped he was having a nice time on his vacation and that I’d enjoyed our flight down to Orlando. The ensuing conversation went like this…
HIM: Hi, yes that was very nice! I am still in Orlando and having a blast. How was your trip? What is new?
ME: My trip was good. Exhausting, but good. They made us be at our booth at 7 am. Ugh. So the days were long. But, the evenings were nice. I loved being able to sit out on the patio and eat dinner. I think that’s something I really miss during out long Wisconsin winters. However, today it’s going to be 71 here. YAY ! But then storms moving in tomorrow.. strong winds and hail. (better than snow though, right?) Glad to hear you”re having a blast. What’s your favorite thing you’ve done so far?
HIM: Probably golfing and Universal heme park were my faves so far. Other than that just laying around by the pool, relaxing. What now?
ME: What now? what do you mean? You fly home when?
HIM: Well, do you plan on draining me on your knees or what? I should be here another week or so, will let you know. What you into sexually? Let me know.
MY JAW HIT THE FLOOR!! This was so not what I was expecting a seemingly normal and “nice guy” to say to me. Which brings me to the title of my post today… are men living in some parallel universe that women just can’t understand? How did we get from a kiss on a plane to sexual favors in the blink of an eye?
I wrote back to him… “ummmmm… okay, well that wasn’t what I expected to hear. usually people work up to that a little more slowly, you know, like dating… did I give you the impression that I was a cheap roll in the hay?” … hit the SEND button and waited to see his response, which at that point I pretty much already knew what it would contain.
HIM: Oh sorry, my bad. Did not want to offend you. Good luck to you, this is a mistake. Take care
Sighs…. another bullet dodged. Makes a girl wonder if she should just give up on dating altogether. Just how many frogs do you need to kiss before one turns into your prince?
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The possibility DOES exist, that I have become a very jaded person. On the other hand, I think a woman SHOULD be skeptical when trying online dating. I decided to give Match.com another whirl this weekend. I received a wink from a guy that had a great photo and a well-written profile. By the 2nd email, I began to get suspicious. The writing in the email didn’t reflect the same level of skill as the profile did. And, he felt the need to pour his heart out immediately about his past relationships. Let me share a little of this with you, and you tell me if I’m wrong to be suspicious.
His profile reads:
have been on my own for about 4 years now and have raised 1 wonderful son. It’s time for me. I love to laugh and make others laugh. I enjoy life. I want someone who also enjoys life, someone who is complete but someone who wants to share herself and her interests. Looks are what initially attract but there should be substance. I want someone I can have meaningful conversations with. You don’t have to agree with me but cares enough about what he believes to take a stand. Music is important for me. I’m a child of the late 60′s and 70′s. Great eras for great music. I enjoy dancing. I know a lot of women like music, but that would be a real plus. Smart, funny and must see life as a glass half-full. she should like the outdoors as much as I do. My interests are varied. I love to fish, travel and sometimes I just like being at home with my family
I know who I am and I would like to share. I’m open to new adventures and I’m not hung up on money or status. I enjoy everything from going to the theater with friends to hanging at home and enjoying a quiet glass of wine. I guess I am very eclectic.
And now, his email –
I will like to tell you more about me like i promised and i also hope you also do the same in return You already know my name Daniel XXXX (last name purposely left out), i live in Louisville Kentucky but i grew up in Australia, And i deal in ,Antiques,Germ stones,Gold,Diamonds and jewelries..i love my work and do travel a lot.what do you do for a living ? At the moment i am living in a four bedroom house, and a garage with a swimming pool.i love to swim but i am not a good swimmer, do you swim ? you can teach me ,lol.I live with my son only, for some time now i have been lonely and been happy with someone is what am seeking for okay.
THEN…. I’m NO dummy..
I did a copy/paste of a portion of his profile and Google’d it. Lo and behold there were FOUR matches. One was a guy on Bendigo Personals… a 50 year old male with no photo, from Australia. The next was on Luckyusalover.com. The SAME profile, word for word, a different photo and this guy said he was from the US. And the third… CatholicConnect.com only this time the guys name was FRANK !!
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